Have you been in a situation where you were given the worst advice ever and instead of finding solutions, you ended up being in an even worse dilemma? Whether it is advice on your career, relationships or finances, there’s a lot of bad advice out there that needs to be avoided at all costs.
As I was taking my first steps into the professional world, I was constantly told by my family members that, ‘A woman’s job is to stay at home and take care of the family, that’s where she will find true happiness.’ Despite being reminded of this statement during most of our family conversations, I simply couldn’t fathom their logic behind this ‘advice’. Why couldn’t a woman have a family of her own and at the same time pursue her dreams? Why couldn’t she chase her passion and also find happiness in all that she is doing, whether she’s an entrepreneur, employed or a full-time mother?
As I advanced in my career, I looked forward to waking up each day to do what I loved most, facing challenges as they came and learning from them. I know that for me, this is what I’m made for and truly makes me happy.
One of the most important things you should remember is that sometimes people will give you all sorts of advice, but ‘words that they live by’ for you would be ‘words that messed my life up.’ Before anyone, learn to trust yourself, only you are in control and responsible for your life.
Lack of trust in yourself will always make you question your worth, cause difficulty with decision-making, keep your authentic self hidden and have a constant fear of disappointing others.
Learning to trust yourself doesn’t come easy, it requires constant effort and self-confidence, but it will lead you to believing in your abilities and creating a life you want. Yet, why do we keep questioning ourselves and our intuitions?
Self-trust is staying true to yourself, it is treating yourself with love and compassion. You have an internal compass that guides you through the best path of life for your happiness and success, all you have to do is trust it!
In this blog post, I will share with you some tips on how you can learn to trust yourself and your decisions, to become more confident and find true happiness.
5 ways you can Trust Yourself and Gain Self-Confidence:
- Trust your Intuition: Making decisions in life can be difficult and you often find yourself second-guessing every decision you make, which will not only ruin your peace, but also cause anxiety. Listen to your gut feeling, listen to what your body is telling you. Trust it, trust your feelings.
- Have Self-Compassion: Sometimes, your inner voice tells you not to take that ‘risk’ or that your dreams are unachievable. Transform your inner critic into a compassionate friend. When you’re doubting yourself, pause, and think of what you would tell a friend who was seeking advice or needed your help. Develop the compassion you have for your loved ones, for yourself. Learn to trust yourself and become your own biggest supporter.
- Embrace your Vulnerability: You may have your guard up at all times and constantly try to please others, this prevents others from knowing the real you. Be authentic and show vulnerability, it will help you build a strong relationship with yourself and others too. Authenticity and vulnerability are part of the self-trust process, they will allow you to learn more about yourself and others.
- Self-acceptance: It is important to be aware that life will never be perfect, people will let you down and you will make mistakes. Allow yourself to make mistakes and grow from them. Shift your mindset, let go of the guilt and regret you are holding onto, and learn to accept things as they are. Don’t be too harsh on yourself!
- Create your version of Success: People will tell you what success means according to them, but you need to ask yourself what success looks like to you? For some it may be a six-figure bank balance, for others it’s being able to afford a vacation and for some it’s being happy and content with life. Visualizing your path will strengthen your trust in your abilities.
Takeaway
I hope this article has been helpful for you. Remember, you are the only person who will always be there for yourself, learn to trust yourself through this journey of life. If you have any questions or comments, please feel free to leave them below. And if you know someone who is struggling with trusting themselves, share this article with them, you might create a positive change in their life! Thanks for reading!